Jab koi aisa shakhs jise hum ahmiyat dete hain, baar baar hamari baat ko nazar andaz kare, paigham ka jawab na de ya jaan boojh kar hum se door rehne lage, to dil par bohat gehra asar hota hai. Insaan baar baar apna phone dekhta hai, sochta hai ke jawab kyun nahi aaya aur phir yeh umeed karta hai ke shayad sab kuch pehle jaisa ho jaye.
Aise waqt mein sab se mushkil kam yeh hota hai ke hum apni khuddaari aur sukoon ko qaim rakhein.
Aksar hamara dil kehta hai ke ek aur paigham bhejo, poochho ke kya masla hai, ya kisi tarah us shakhs ki tawajjo hasil karo. Lekin agar koi shakhs lagataar aap ko nazarandaz kar raha hai, to baar baar us ke peeche jana aap ko andar se mazeed pareshan karta hai.
Is surat e haal mein behtareen rawayya yeh hai ke aap us ki tawajjo mangne ke bajaye apni zindagi par tawajjo den.
Har Khamoshi Ka Jawab Talash Karna Zaroori Nahi
Jab kisi ka jawab nahi aata to dimagh mein bohat se sawal paida hote hain:
“Kya mujh se koi ghalti hui hai?”
“Us ne jawab kyun nahi diya?”
“Kya woh mujh se naraz hai?”
“Kya ab usay meri parwah nahi?”
Yeh sawalat baar baar sochne se dil aur dimagh dono thak jate hain. Kabhi kabhi hum ek choti si khamoshi ko itna bara masla bana dete hain ke apna sukoon hi kho dete hain.
Agar koi shakhs ek martaba masroofiyat ki wajah se jawab na de to is ka matlab yeh nahi ke woh aap ko nazarandaz kar raha hai. Lekin agar yeh rawayya baar baar ho aur woh jaan boojh kar aap se doori ikhtiyar kare, to phir us ke rawaiye ko samajhna zaroori hai.
Bar Bar Paigham Bhej Kar Tawajjo Na Mangein
Bar Bar Paigham Bhej Kar Tawajjo Na Mangein
Agar aap ne apni baat wazeh taur par keh di hai aur samne wale ko jawab dena hai, to usay waqt dein.
Baar baar paigham bhejna, call karna ya yeh poochna ke “Aap jawab kyun nahi de rahe?” aksar aap ki bechaini ko barha deta hai.
Apni khuddaari ka matlab yeh nahi ke aap gusse mein doosre shakhs ko nazarandaz karna shuru kar dein. Khuddaari ka asal matlab yeh hai ke aap kisi ki tawajjo hasil karne ke liye apna sukoon qurban na karein.
Aap ko har waqt dastiyab rehne ki zaroorat nahi.
Apni Zindagi Ko Kisi Ek Shakhs Ke Gird Na Ghumayein
Jab hum kisi ki tawajjo ke aadhi ho jate hain to kabhi kabhi hamari zindagi ka markaz bhi wahi shakhs ban jata hai.
Us ka paigham aaye to khushi.
Jawab na aaye to udaasi.
Woh baat kare to dil halka.
Woh door ho jaye to bechaini.
Yeh rawayya dheere dheere insaan ko andar se kamzor kar sakta hai.
Apni zindagi ko dobara apne gird laayein. Apne kaam, sehat, ghar walon, doston, hunar aur mustaqbil par tawajjo dein. Jo waqt aap kisi doosre shakhs ke jawab ka intezar karte hue guzarte hain, us waqt ko apni behtari ke liye istemal karein.
Apni Qeemat Kisi Ke Rawaiye Se Tay Na Karein
Sab se zaroori baat yeh hai ke kisi doosre shakhs ka rawayya aap ki qeemat ka faisla nahi karta.
Agar koi aap ki qadar nahi karta, to is ka matlab yeh nahi ke aap qabil-e-qadar nahi.
Agar koi aap ki baat nahi sunta, to is ka matlab yeh nahi ke aap ki baat be-maani hai.
Agar koi aap ko waqt nahi deta, to is ka matlab yeh nahi ke aap ki koi ahmiyat nahi.
Har shakhs ke apne faislay aur rawaiye hote hain. Aap apni taraf se sachay, mukhlis aur izzat ke saath reh sakte hain, lekin doosre shakhs ke rawaiye ko apne qaboo mein nahi rakh sakte.
Khamoshi Ko Badla Banane Ke Bajaye Sukoon Banayein
Kisi ko sabak sikhane ke liye jaan boojh kar usay nazarandaz karna aur baat hai. Lekin apne sukoon ke liye peeche hat jana bilkul mukhtalif baat hai.
Aap ka maqsad yeh nahi hona chahiye ke saamne wala pareshan ho kar aap ko dobara yaad kare.
Aap ka maqsad yeh hona chahiye ke aap khud behtar mehsoos karein.
Jab aap kisi ki tawajjo ke liye bhaagna band kar dete hain, to dil mein ek ajeeb sa sukoon paida hota hai. Aap ko ehsaas hota hai ke aap ki khushi kisi doosre shakhs ke haath mein nahi.
Agar Woh Dobara Wapas Aaye To Fauran Pehle Jaisa Na Ban Jayein
Kabhi kabhi jab hum peeche hat jate hain to saamne wala dobara rabta karta hai. Aise waqt mein jazbaat mein aa kar foran sab kuch pehle jaisa kar dena zaroori nahi.
Ghor karein:
Kya us ke rawaiye mein waqai tabdeeli aayi hai?
Kya ab woh aap ki qadar karta hai?
Kya woh pehle ki tarah aap ko nazarandaz to nahi karega?
Kya us ki baaton ke saath us ke amal bhi badle hain?
Sirf alfaaz par nahi, rawaiye par bharosa karein. Agar kisi shakhs ne waqai apni ghalti samjhi hai to us ki tabdeeli us ke amal se nazar aayegi.
Apni Tawajjo Apni Behtari Par Lagayein
Jab koi aap ko nazarandaz kare to apna waqt us ke jawab ka intezar karne mein zaya na karein.
Apni sehat ka khayal rakhein.
Apne kaam par tawajjo dein.
Naye hunar seekhein.
Apne ghar walon aur achay doston ke saath waqt guzarein.
Apne mustaqbil ke liye mehnat karein.
Sab se barh kar apne dil ko yeh yaqeen dilayein ke aap ki zindagi kisi ek shakhs ki tawajjo ki mohtaj nahi.
Asal Kamyabi Kya Hai?
Asal kamyabi yeh nahi ke aap kisi ko baar baar majboor karein ke woh aap ki qadar kare.
Asal kamyabi yeh hai ke aap apni qeemat ko samjhein aur kisi ki be-rukhi ki wajah se apni nazron mein khud ko kam na karein.
Jo log waqai aap ki qadar karte hain, unhein baar baar apni ahmiyat yaad dilane ki zaroorat nahi hoti. Izzat aur qadar zabardasti hasil nahi ki ja sakti.
Is liye agar koi shakhs aap ko lagataar nazarandaz karta hai, to us ke peeche bhaagne ke bajaye ek qadam peeche hat jayein.
Gusse ke saath nahi.
Badlay ke liye nahi.
Balkeh apni khuddaari aur sukoon ke liye.
Har shakhs jo aap ko nazarandaz karta hai, zaroori nahi ke woh aap ki qeemat ko samajhta ho. Lekin aap ko apni qeemat samajhne ke liye kisi doosre shakhs ki tasdeeq ki zaroorat nahi.
Agar koi aap ke saath rehna chahta hai to usay aap ki qadar karni hogi. Aur agar koi baar baar door jana chahta hai, to kabhi kabhi usay jaane dena hi apne sukoon ki hifazat hoti hai.
Kisi ki tawajjo ke liye apni khuddari mat khoiye. Apni zindagi par tawajjo dein, apne aap ko waqt dein aur yaad rakhein: aap ki qeemat kisi ke jawab dene ya na dene se kam nahi hoti.
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